I know, I know! That sounds like a dirty word, doesn’t it?
I heard a saying years ago, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” They were talking about business, but I have found that it applies to so much more in life. Now, don’t get me wrong, I simply love spontaneity and am quite impulsive in all reality BUT at any given time I usually have an underlying ‘plan’ to just about anything I undertake, like traveling for instance. And if things go awry, like they sometimes will, it’s also good to be flexible and resourceful enough to resort to ‘Plan B’, if necessary.
So, how did I plan my 10 week United Kingdom dream holiday vacation? One step at a time!
First Step: DREAM!!!! And while you’re at it – dream big!
The first trip I ever took by myself was to Hawaii and I hadn’t planned on going by myself initially. I had saved up enough money to take a 10 day trip with my oldest daughter after her baby was old enough to be away from mommy for awhile and to reward her with a much deserved rest.
Just before I was going to make the reservations and buy the airline tickets something occurred which prevented her from getting to go after all. I was going to scrap the plans but she suggested I go anyway. At first I said no, but she kept insisting that I should go since she knew how much I had been looking forward to going there.
Still I protested, proclaiming that I wouldn’t know what to do by myself, that I would be alone and therefore lonely, etc., etc., but she wasn’t buying my excuses and self induced fears. She asked, “Why not? You are a competent professional woman who travels for work purposes, raised a family of 3 kids pretty much by yourself, and you are outgoing and confident too! Knowing you like I do, I bet you would have a super time!”
Her statements and encouragement helped me to think outside the box I had self-imposed and got me to thinking about the possibilities that had never occurred to me before. My dreaming phase began and I began to envision what that might be like. A picture in my mind began to form and quite frankly after I was willing to participate and dream I actually started to get excited about it.
Before long I made the decision to follow her advice and since I had saved enough money for 2 people for a 10 day trip now I could take that money and plan a vacation for 1 for twice as long!
That is exactly what I did! In addition, instead of only visiting one island, Maui, I also added another; the big island as well! This was getting more exciting by the minute!
It turned out to be one of the best trips I had ever taken. Instead of being lonely, I felt empowered and I met so many people that I otherwise would not have paid attention to if I had been traveling with someone else. My focus would have been on my traveling partner instead.
I only had to please myself each and everyday. I didn’t have to try to coordinate with anyone or compromise. I just did what I wanted for once, when I wanted and IF I wanted. I could even change my mind without disappointing anyone else. It was glorious! I had never experienced that before as an adult.
And you know what? I learned a lot about myself on that trip. I learned how to enjoy my own company. I returned home as a more confident woman, centered, refreshed and to my surprise – spiritually authentic in touch with who I am and better for it.
Allow yourself to dream. Believe it’s possible, because it is.